Shelby and Kami met each other when they were both married to men, and were “good” straight Mormon girls with several kids each.

It all started in 2012 at a self improvement seminar. Kami was there alone, Shelby was there with my husband.

Shelby was a well prepared kinda gal, so she had probably six bags of things surrounding her feet (goodie bag, notebook and book bag, change of clothes if needed).

Kami got up from her seat just down the row from where Shelby was sitting to use the restroom. She paused at Shelby’s gigantic road block, trying to figure out a way to scale its enormity so she could go take care of what was calling.

So, being the responsible citizen Shelby was, she took her hand to help her over the mountain.

But when Shelby grabbed her hand, Kami didn’t proceed. She stood there. She turned to Shelby as if she knew her, realized she didn’t, donned a new perplexed expression, and then accepted the offering of assistance over the piles of bags.

Later that day the audience was divided up into groups and Kami approached Shelby, and said “I am going to be in YOUR group.”

Shelby has since learned that when Kami speaks with directness like that, there is good reason. 🙂

That day began a friendship like either had ever experienced. They quickly labeled each other as bestie. They felt in their hearts that they had some amazing things to do together.

People would say they were powerful individuals, but together, they were unstoppable. Their influence as teachers, speakers, mentors and facilitators was MASSIVE.

That day Kami grabbed Shelby’s hand, she said that my energy was familiar. She was sure she knew that touch. Shelby realized her own soul somehow knew Kami as well as they hit it off so incredibly quickly.

Throughout the years, many people would ask if they were soul mates, twin flames, lesbians etc. Their answer, as they believed it to be, was that they loved each other as much as two besties could. That they probably knew each other before this planet, and had big plans for this lifetime and any lifetimes that came after.

When they met, they were both Latter Day Saints, married for time and all eternity. They believed that their friendship was a reminder to all that there is hope in relationships and that the conscious things they were learning in their friendship would assist them in showing up more powerfully in their marriages.

What happened is that they eventually became aware of truly unhealthy their marriages were, and how untrue and non-expansive their previous beliefs were in regards to how a “good wife” behaves.

Their journey of self love and healing continued. But not as they thought....

Shelby finally chose out of her marriage December of 2016. She chose herself for the first time in her life. Her heart had been begging to be listened to, and she finally heard. So many people told Shelby that “breaking up her family” was a mistake and it would hurt so many people. She would later find out that though the journey post divorce was indeed incredibly difficult for all, the kids valued the lessons and example. Shelby’s and her husband had struggled for years, attended seminars, had mentors and counselors, spoke to church leaders and prayed together regularly. After years of effort, she finally saw that staying together wasn't working and was actually doing more damage.

Kam was still committed to her man at the time. As Shelby’s bestie she cheered her on, loved her, and they continued to pursue the business ideas they had created together…retreats that would invite women to tune in to and follow their hearts, learn to play again and return to a love space regularly.

Fast forward six months, Kam’s husband came to her, saying he found a new love and was leaving her. This wasn’t the first time he had done this. But this would be the first time she would say ok. Her heart also called for freedom from toxicity and unhealthy patterns within a marriage.

So, incredibly, four months after Shelby chose divorce, Kami was now going through the same process. The two of them would spend every other week together (their custody plans were the same!) for an entire year. That year was one of the biggest growth periods of all time for both. During that time, the two of them filed through past constructs and programs, consciously choosing what no longer worked and letting it go. That year commenced with the finalization of both divorces within a week of each other.

Kam and Shelby lived 8 hours from each other for most of their friendship. They dreamt of living in the same neighborhood so they could go shopping together, attend local events, do more women’s workshops and go

to their kids’ functions together. They were travelling often, meeting half way for events or for classes they wanted to take. They didn’t give up on the idea of Shelby someday moving to the town both Kami and Shelby’s momma lived in. The universe was on their side when a clause within Shelby’s divorce papers said “Shelby must live within 50 miles of ex, unless otherwise agreed upon and with serious consideration of the kids’ wants and needs.”

With that clause, and Shelby’s kids’ love for the city that Kam and their grandma lived in, they asked their dad if they could try it for the summer. Miraculously he gave us a soft yes, which was enough for us to be able to move down.

Kami got the house in her divorce. So Shelby and her six children moved in, within three days of that soft yes.

Shelby and Kami never thought they were “attracted” to each other. The thought of being a couple seemed impossible for so many reasons. Neither one had ever been attracted to the same sex before. Not to mention their religion had strong teachings against it. They knew they loved and cared for the other, but the blinders were on because the option didn’t feel even remotely available.

Yet, six years later, they are still living together in that beautiful six bedroom home in St George, as a couple. A few less kids, as many have made lives of their own. It did take time, but they both realized that the love they had for each other reached beyond religion, beyond tradition, beyond the norm and beyond time. That they had been in this love for a very long time. That love is boundless, and that following their hearts and trusting their own intuition and inspiration (rather than that of our religious leaders, friends or family members) can lead to some of the scariest yet most amazing lives.

Both have shared on many occasions that they have never felt so much love, never been so connected to their own hearts, never felt so free and alive, never felt so inspired and enthusiastic about life, and have never been so authentically themselves.

Shelby and Kami rocked the boat. They divorced within a religion that frowns heavily upon it. They left a church that was a MAJOR part of our growing up and belief system, they chose each other without having experienced being attracted to a woman before. We may even rock it as non-conforming within the LGBTQ world, because they don’t really fit a label. They chose to call themselves “person specific”, having fallen in love with themselves, thus setting themselves up to find a perfect match. They simply say that they are “human as loving fuck” and their religion is love.

Implementing both Kami’s and Shelby’s gifts, their dynamics provide a unique experience for their clients. Their work and passion is to share their story, and assist others on their own healing journey of self love, self discovery, and ultimately trusting and following the only thing that really knows them…their soul. Their joy is watching those they work with walk themselves home to their own hearts, live on purpose, and seek out real truth, playing along the way.

Their journey does demonstrate a beautiful love story. But it actually began with an even bigger love story, and that is when they both chose to love themselves more than they ever have. They remind themselves daily, as they will remind you, ‘You’re the one you’ve been looking for.’ “